Books on dating a recovering alcoholic
"I've learned through mistakes to now be very straightforward with PIRs instead of guessing if they are comfortable with a certain setting," she wrote."Everyone in recovery is different, so their comfort levels, of course, will vary." Manipulation -- being talked into something you don't want to do -- is one behavior a person in recovery could continue even after becoming sober, Ms. She found herself loaning a large amount of money to a boyfriend in the program and did so again five months later. Nagy learned about her own tendencies of being a co-dependent. I was just as naive as anybody." For information about Al-Anon, a resource for friends and families of problem drinkers: al-anon. Then they drop a bomb: “I used to be a drug addict.” They may as well have said, “I’m married.” But does one partner being in recovery automatically spell doom for a relationship?Healthy Recovery, Healthy Relationships Most recovering addicts aren’t strangers to therapy and, as a result, have spent a lot of time working on themselves and their relationships."There's nothing like it out there," said Sid Farrar, senior trade acquisitions editor at Hazelden Publishing, part of the nonprofit Hazelden Foundation, which also offers addiction treatment and support."This is an important piece of the puzzle for people who get in relationships with people in the program.
Instead of referring to AA, one might ask if someone is a friend of Bill or Bill W., referring to Bill Wilson, the co-founder, to keep to the organization's tradition of anonymity. Nagy felt her actions with her significant other were affected -- if he was a friend of Bill, she had become an extension of that or "a girlfriend of Bill." There are more than 2 million members of AA around the world and 1.2 million in the United States, according to the organization's fact file. Nagy describes the two cultures of people who are in the program and those who are not as "two different worlds" where there hasn't been much crossing over until now, which explains why there is little information for people who are considering dating someone in recovery.
Although research has refuted outdated assumptions about addiction, surveys have shown that people judge addicts (even recovering ones) more harshly than people struggling with obesity, depression and even schizophrenia.